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And T responded, "you put your life into the marriage," as if to justify my grief-that-will-not-end. Wow, did that ever make me feel not good! Like, how depressing! Made me feel like I gave my life to the marriage, what a waste, now I'm left with nothing because I gave my life already. I know he didn't mean to imply those things, but that's how it hit me. All I said in response was "Yes."

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I'm too tired to think of depressing things right now (what a surprise for me, lol), but I did want to comment on your post. I just wanted to say that validation can be really depressing at times, and we can learn a lot about ourselves by the feelings that we project into those validations. Like you said, you know your T didn't mean to imply those things, but that's how you interpreted it on your own level. I think what your T said was incredibly validation, but also a big hit of reality for you-- so it ends up being depressing.

I am wondering why you chose to only reply with "yes" instead of talking about the interpretation of your feelings. Will you bring this up to your T? I think it is quite valuable to talk about the things that came up for you, as a result of his statement.