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I am wondering why you chose to only reply with "yes" instead of talking about the interpretation of your feelings. Will you bring this up to your T? I think it is quite valuable to talk about the things that came up for you, as a result of his statement.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Thanks, Pink. I think I said "yes," because on one level I knew he was right, and wanted to let him know that at least on some level I did agree and understand what he had just said. I didn't choose to explore my feelings perhaps because the predominant one was sadness and I had just been crying/sobbing over this other sad thing and had moved through that and didn't feel up to going into more sadness/crying. It was too much. I also know that this might lead in another direction, to reassurances from T that it was not a waste, I had a lot in front of me if I chose to, etc. I have heard some of this from him before (he's a human potential guy), and it wasn't the direction I wanted therapy to go in at that moment because I had other stuff to get to and the clock was ticking. Today I see him again and maybe we will return to this. He says that it takes as long to rebuild as it does to divorce (meaning more than just the legal process) so at some point in the future we will turn to working on the rebuilding--uncovering my potential, helping me define my goals, and taking the next steps to achieving them.