My thought as I was reading your post is that the VA system offers a Substance Abuse Outpatient Program (SAOP) that is really helpful to vets. They offer support groups, a counselor, and a psychiatrist. I think that this might be a good place to consider going. It would help you with the drinking that you're doing and it would also allow you a place to meet some other men (and women) who can lend you some support. The counselors are also really great. A friend of mine used to work at the VA SAOP and met many people who thought it was just great.