I talk with my BFs alters a lot. We all get along OK. I think it helps sometimes. I can pass messages when they aren't communicating so well, and sometimes they know things he doesn't. I love him singly and in multiple. We're all in this together, so we may as well get to know each other.

I don't know why your H would want to talk with anyone else after a fight, tho. That doesn't sound right to me. Can you ask him why?