I have just recently discovered that I have did. I fear this so much . I am female and he is male and is destructive when he comes out...when me gets very angry. He thinks that I am a stupid person and thinks she is weak. He came out and abused my husband, by ripping hisclothing demeaning him(my husband) saying" if you wont make love to her I will". This was told later to me by my husband ,because I don't remember things tis "alter" does.