Isolated Guy pretty much said what I was going to say, except he's put it to action. I'm still not 'walking the talk', so to speak. Also remember, you can't change or make people do/say/think what you'd like them to think, you can only change things for YOU. A good quote comes to mind, "You can't choose what people say to you, you can only choose how you react to it." I think that's a big part of self esteem... Learning how to except you as you are and know that you can't please everyone or make everyone like you.