He's definitely not being honest with you and maybe not himself either. If this is who he is and this is not who you want as a partner then I will have to agree with kendyll. You have to let him go. You're not talking about having to deal with leaving his socks in the middle of the floor. This is a biggy and if who he is make you ill just to think about it, how could you love him? This is a big part of what makes him, him. Or is it that you're just physically attracted to him? Lust not Love? You have some serious soul searching to do.