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I find it helps me when my T tells me things that I don't want to hear.

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You are a better man/woman than I, Just. I do want to know the truth so I can change (But I'd rather stay the same and have the truth change to be honest). However, I dislike it intensely when I am talking to T and he says, "I'm just not saying what you want to hear." At that point, I'm extremely frustrated and even moreso after hearing that phrase.

I have noticed, though, that the phrase is popular amongst therapists. (I'm leading an 'awareness' campaign to stop this at all costs, BTW) LOL --Traveler, what are your thoughts on this?

This phrase sticks in my craw like none other. Why? I don't know. I'm going to guess aloud, if you don't mind. It's like after a T utters, "I'm just not saying what you want to hear," well, it's 'as if' the conversation is over. Its 'as if'' somebody other than you has decided exactly what the problem is: your inability to hear the truth. Could that be true? Yes. Could it be false? Yes!

The phrase is dismissive in nature, though, and tends to end a 'discussion' if one is caught unaware (as I have a few times). Then, if it was false, you would be left with the feeling of mass confusion, unneccessary guilt, or some other unappealing feeling. I trust my T and know that these words are said for a good reason (like he's trying to end my obsessive questioning/ranting or something similarly altruistic).

Imagine, if you will, if a patient said, "Hello T, I'm not going to pay you for your services today. However you have done an exceptional job as usual."
T: "What? Did you forget your wallet? Are you having money difficulties?"
Me: "Well, no."
T: --Well, he would start to get frustrated and angry at this point and probably insist payment.
Me: Hmmmm. "I'm just not saying what you want to hear, T."

And I would say that 'as if' the conversation were over. (Although I know it wouldn't be as I would never do this to my T.)

Spread the word. Let everyone know and be aware of these words so haphazardly strewn together: "I'm just not saying what you want to hear." I say beware. Be a very weary bear.

I was totally kidding above, BTW. My OCD tends to be creative at times. I do dislike the phrase, though, LOL.

Just, it sounds like you have a good relationship with your T! I'm so glad that he/she is motivating! Take care!