I'm a shy guy who works with a girl that I would really like to get to know better. We see each other in the hall or elevator and we smile and make good long eye contact, but neither of us has said more than "Hello" to each other.

Part of the problem is that I am shy. Not afraid, but guarded. If she started talking to me, I'd talk all day with her. It's just getting started. Another part of the problem is working for the same company. What if something goes wrong and you still have to see them. With normal breakups you might be able to avoid them, but at work you wouldn't as much. So, I'm also guarded about starting something with a co-worker.

If you can get past those issues, I'd suggest talking to him about what he does. Assuming you don't work WITH each other, asking him about what he does helps get a conversation started and if nothing else helps you learn a little more about what the company does or if you do work together might also help you learn more for your own job.

Once you have a conversational relationship, you might ask him to lunch or for coffee or whatever, so you can talk more about work. Then slowly work personal information and questions into the mix.

I think because we're shy and probably don't have a lot of relationships of any kind with women, we tend to put them on a pedestal and then we never feel we can measure up. Showing interest in us will help bring us out of our shell. Take it slowly, but go ahead and make the first move. We'll really appreciate it.

Good luck, to both of you!