As a rule of thumb, I tell my daughter and nieces that if they are thinking of getting involved with a man that has children, ask him the last time he had his children and what they did. If he *****es about child support or can’t remember the last time they were together or what they did, run! If he’s not willing to treat his own offspring with love and respect, there’s no way in hell he’ll treat you any better. It goes without saying that he must be employed.

And even though it is a double standard, I tell my sons that a woman that has children that she doesn't have custody of isn't someone that you want to spend any time with. (This of course does not apply to children given up for adoption.)

And I agree, bad hygiene is a real turn off. I did not realize my husband had very greasy hair until after we were married and I woke up next to him in the morning. Turns out that he showered in the morning before work and then again before he came to pick me up.