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Xando said:
we tend to put them on a pedestal and then we never feel we can measure up.

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Wonderfull post Xando....perfect advise...

And I so agree with your pedestal comment...this often comes from triangulation in early childhood,,when a child is given emotional roles far beyond him/her..that the gender he or she supported becomes more than human...to be almost awed....

We never quite measure up to the roles we were expected to perform and live in a "less than" emotional trap...

The cure over time is equality via self esteme built through appropraite validation and self accomplishment...

Thank you for the wonderful contribution...

Lenny