LMo, you bring up a good point.

People do want to help those they care about. At what point does it become codependency? It's a healthy idea I think to try to help others when we can.

You are so on target though about moods affecting us. My ex was in a slump for I don't know how long before we split. Anything would either piss him or just make him withdraw. It made me depressed. Nothing I could say or do would give me even a positive reaction from him.

I may be too needy right now... but he has never really even acknolwedged that he's hurt me or even apologized. I really want some closure, I guess. He pulled a heck of a stunt today that just got to me. A long time ago (maybe last year), I had given him a lot of stuff to keep. I didn't want it any longer. A lot of it were his personal belongings, a few gifts he had given me like jewlery, and I'd given him a wedding album. I just didn't want it. I kept a few momentos, and that was all I wanted.

This morning, I went to get mail. I found the album at my apartment door. Not good for my mental attitude, that's for sure.