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But it might also be offensive since DBT does really push towards change and recovery and not staying stuck, and those are uncomfortable concepts for a lot of people too.
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Sadly, it may be harsh.....but how true it is!!!! I know my husband for one is one of those people who says they are who they are & their personality is what it is & there is no way it's going to change because it's who they are......no matter how bad it's screwing up their life......I am sure that those words coming from my husband aren't that different than millions of others who feel the same way.
People who can't figure out even where to start on changing or what to start changing & when therapy only reinforces their own thinking rather than challenging their thinking.......& they aren't involved in anything else in their life that challenges their thinking........they are stuck & that's just the facts.....whether it's harsh or not.....reality is what it is.
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I dont recogninse my recovery from your statements. I am in therapy and do not see myself as stuck, infact I see myself as working extremely hard through therapy. I think people who have had uncomfortable pasts are afraid at trusting something else. I dont see that as somethign that should be punished? I see that as a starting point. I'm sure your reality seems just that, but I wonder what vision you see it through? because yoru reality doesn't match mine? sometimes projection makes perseption? I personally have nothing against DBT, I dont find it deep enought for my issues, but I dont wish to accuse anyone of wanting to stay stuck, I see them as trying to surive and frozen in terror and thats a very scary place to be. If DBT leaves the attitude I am begining to read here then I'd question its effectiveness??