Some alters can be very difficult to work with. Do you have a t? It can be very useful to have someone to help you sort through the strong emotions and thoughts different alters have with them. One important thing is to keep yourself safe. It sounds like you are aware what is happening. Please do whatever you need to do. Here is a link that may be useful. You may want to keep phone numbers handy.
http://psychcentral.com/helpme.htm
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