There are too many good posts to quote everyone.... and I honestly feel like i just keep repeating myself - BUT - ....

My wife is bipolar. We have been together for 2 years now. I honestly had no clue she was until shortly after we got married and she wouldn't let me near her for almost 2 months. I couldn't figure out what was going on, and to be honest when you are newly married you want to be in that 'honeymoon' stage for a long time - we never had one.

Since then I have been cheated on, abused financially, verbally, and physically. I've been kicked out of the house and told not to come back, and then shorlty after begged to come back home.

The sex is just sex - there's no emotion involved from her, and among her 'extra-marital' relationships i guess I can't say there's much from myself.

At this moment I am running on nothing - my job (which I dearly love) is about the only thing I have that keeps me going in any way of hopes or rewards.

BUT - I can't bring myself to leave her in HOPES that my continued efforts at getting her to therapy and on some meds will somehow bring back the person I met and married.

However - love IS NOT enough. I can't trust her anymore. I can't bring myself to find enough energy or emotion to invest right now in hopes that things will just 'get better.'

I am a distant second to everything else in her life - but she expects me to love her and treat her like she is the love of my life when I know I will get nothing in return.

I am not trying to dash your hopes or dreams. I am not trying to tell you no, and I am definately not telling you yes. I am just trying to paint a picture of my experience for you. Your will MOST LIKELY not be like this - but i am sure if you have been visiting this site long enough you have armed yourself with enough information to make a decently educated decision. Marriage is not something to enter into lightly, and LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH.