Hi,
I'm 38 and have been married to an alcholic abuser, lived common-law with a drug user/physical abuser and am now married again, to a man who does none of those things but is very distant and unaffectionate, not talkative etc. We are on the verge of divorce. Ive only just found out that I have anxiety disorder although Ive been on effexor xr for years.
My point is, my husband is 10yrs younger than me and Ive always had that same problem, jerks, old guys blah blah blah.. then I thought I found my knight in shining armour, good looking, christian, etc, but my disorder and his silence is unbarable for both of us, I have absolutely no emotional support from him, I went to the hospital in January and when the paramedic's and doc's asked me where my husband was I told them he's busy. He was at work and couldnt take an hour off to support me. Any how sorry for rambling on.
Any way dont give up on finding the right guy cause it is possible, but if you do have any sort of mental illness just make sure you get the proper help you need cause the guy you fall in love with may not be able to cope with your illness. Dont do what I did and try to deny you have any thing wrong because of shame or thinking you are weak cause you're not. Its way better to get the proper help, than to pretend you are fine and try to cope alone.
Oh and by the way please dont take any thing I wrote in anyway, shape or form as if I am assuming any of this pertains to you, I guess I just felt very similar to you and it reminded me of my situation. Good luck, dont give up, you will find your special love