hey pinky
you know my situation.. and how we comiserated on spending, both on T and otherwise. What you are doing is a big leap... i am proud but also concerned. i think you can do anything you set your mind to.. but i worry about the cost. Recovery isn't a linear path, and this period of growth and progress will inevitably be intermingled with less than stellar times too. That isnt meant to discourage you, quite the opposite, it's meant to suggest a fluid approach to things, one that isn't black and white: financially responsible vs reckless spending. The goal is to be healthy, in all aspects of life. N'est pas?

i'm wondering if you can't do what you suggested to me once... twice sometimes, once others.. maybe every other week?

the bigger changes to bring financial relief should be in the other, less essential areas of life.. and you'll hate this, but shoes for example. i know upi are prolly doing that stuff too.. you're not dumb.

i don't know.. maybe this has to be a leap approach for you instead of a more gradual one.

the big difference for us i think is the connection aspect... i dont go twice because i cant hold onto him.. i mean, i cant, that is true, but i go twice because my life is chaos and i cant get enough of a break to develop the skills to go once a week. But like you, i am facing the choice through a financial lens.. and i have to face the fact that if i continue at 2x i may lose my ability to go at all. This is difficult when i do not have the skill set to cope yet.

congratulate yourself on setting out on a new portion of the path... getting new skills and reaching a new level. Be aware and forgiving when you find yourself needing and not just wanting... try to learn the difference with an objective eye. Don't be too hard on yourself.

love you with all my heart