just a thought... when i cut... my t makes it clear that he isn't happy... he makes me show him and then won't let me get away with shrugging my shoulders... and not talking... sometimes i feel like he is angry at me or that he doesn't undersand... but i think he is holding me accountable... we have a unwritten agreement that i will try and call him if i am going to cut... but that i will call if my intentions are more then si... do you think that was what your t was expressing to you... that she wasn't happy with your choice to si and that she is concerned for your safety? maybe setting up a safety plan with her would help both of you understand... just a thought... stay safe...lyn