my son's dad came by to bring me cigarettes. i told him i was so angry at his son. and started to rattle on about all the things he isn't doing at the house. and he didn't do his community service yet.. and and and .. well his dad said look.... don't get so angry at him.. we raised him wrong. we made a lot of mistakes. we always did everything for him.. he also said what we need to do is encourage him, talk to him, show him..to do things on his own... shouting and fighting isn't going to work with him.. getting mad isn't good for any of us...

wow.. am amazed..well we did spoil aj.. he never wanted for much. was always loved and taken care of. guess we neglected in teaching him "responsibilities" and discipline because we were so busy showering him with love

guess neither my son's father or i got much love or attention when growing up, so we went over board with aj..guess we have to be patient. sure wish kids came with instruction booklets. trial and error and the kids in one way pay for our mistakes....

i wish i had parents like me and the x husband. wonder how i would of turned out if i had been showered with love and acceptance.. shrugs shoulders