Well, it looks to me like your T. was innappropriate, so some negative reaction in you comes from a healthy place, as I see it.
A lot of people dont undersand what a healthy apology is.
To apologise to someone for a mistake, it takes a straight forward and sincere apology, and acknowledge the impact on the other person, then do everyghing in ones power to amend what happened and learn from it. But to go on in the detail that she did, I think you're right, that she seems to be trying for your sympathy, which in fact just brings the focus back to her rather than leaving room for YOUR feelings, so its not really an amends, its just deepening the twist. Not very therapuetic.

I have learnt a long and hard path, I have had to sack numerous Ts even well known and published ones, but I think I have now found one who does his job well and sincerely, and I feel so lucky. But I had to go through terrible s...t disbilieving my own perceptions and feeling crazy.
Its ok to question oneself and to question ones T. , but when you know, you know, and from what you have described, I can understand your feelings.
From what I can see, your instincts seem right, folllow your intuitive and keep searching for what you need, you'll probably know it when you get it.
I think your anger is healthy, a healthy sign to follow, just one has to be creative with what we do with anger, ie to handle it for truth and the highest good as best as poss.
Keep going, you're doin fine.

riverx