"I know that when I'm frustrated with myself, I automatically assume that T must be frustrated, too."

yep...same here. we just went through that last week and i started crying. T asked "what did i say or do to give you that impression?" Nothing - i'm frustrated with me, so I assumed T was too.

and i've not heard anything this week; not a phonecall, email... nothing. But Pink's right about being in the middle. What we feel is most likely not their perception. THe connection is there- it's covered with stones at the moment.

(((((((((((hugs)))))))))