> I have definitely been able to experience the closeness, connection, and intimacy, on a level that is deeper and stronger than any sexual connection. However, T is right-- my natural feeling is to be even CLOSER to someone who I feel that close with-- hence, the sexual feelings. I am also learning how to accept and deal with a medium-- erotic transference may feel strong at times, and not so strong at others-- but I think it will always be there.

So... If it wasn't there... Then that would mean that you wouldn't get to experience the closeness, connection, and intimacy, on a level that is deeper and stronger than any sexual connection?

(I'm just trying to figure what it would mean TO YOU if the erotic transference wasn't there which I interpret to mean - if you didn't have thoughts of sleeping with him at times).