My BF and I deal with his DID on an almost daily basis. I don't really understand why it is so hard for some people to accept...but I guess I'm not like most people in a lot of ways (I've got my own issues!).

We're both in 12-step program. His alters have become a wonderful support system on their own. His Protector, in particular is VERY determined that my BF make it to his meetings. He's even taken over when Jon didn't really care about going (REALLY bad day) so that he didn't miss the meeting. (Funny, Jonathan won't actually SIT through a meeting, though).

He still prefers to keep it hidden from most people. I get that, but it's unfortunate. "Normal people" can be real jerks. A couple of our friends in the meetings have noticed "something"...but the ones who count don't seem to care. It is hard to find a sponsor, though. Being honest about some things can be really hard...I have a great sponsor, and he knows what he needs to know about me, but I take the details to my T instead. My BF's decided to do the same.

For all the talk about "rigorous honesty", the person we most have to be honest with is OURSELVES. I wish you the best and I'm sorry this is so rough for you.