who defines what action is appropriate?

to love, as I have loved you...unconditionally, even unto my own death!

all that's necessary for evil to flourish is for "good people" to stand idly by.

perhaps it's better to risk someone feeling hurt if it allows them to see the need for change, and to see a better way...We seldom change unless we see different behaviors as an "easier way"

Am I a hypocrite? yes! (among other things) Have I failed to "do the right thing" over and over! (((boy do I need forgiveness!))) but In my own experience, I can say that I needed to have the "boom lowered on me" because I'm so "thick" and slow to understand,continuing to see MY own way as "the way" so,while I'm thankful to people/God who continue to be gentle with me in my ignorance, I'm even more grateful when the band-aid get's pulled off all at once...it may hurt more at first, but it goes away faster!