I think therapy matters. I also think figuring out how you feel about your abuser matters, but not necessarily that you need to forgive him--just that you need to be at peace with how you do feel.

Your emotions are yours, and no one else can tell you how to feel. I have no doubt that the minister probably had good intentions, but he is not a counseling professional and he may not be the best person to advise you in this situation.

How do you feel--does therapy matter to you?