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freewill said:
today.. I was told.. to "forgive my pedophile".. and forget and move on.. by a minister.... that dwelling.. on.. the past... wasn't.. productive..

like.. what is done in therapy...

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I don't think anyone should be "telling" you what to do. People can offer opinions and advice, but shouldn't tell you what to do, especially those without professional training in mental health. I don't feel that therapy is "dwelling on the past." Among other avenues I take in therapy, I seek to understand how past events have affected my current behavioral patterns and mental state so that I can change them for the better and heal. To me, this is very "now" related and not dwelling in the past.