I think parental part can also play out in wanting to look attractive for a T. It reminds me of a little girl, spinning around, showing Dad her new dress or something.

Earthmama, my T has also made comments such as, "You look really nice today." I think I shouted at him, lol.

It is interesting that you mentioned the fear of physical contact being taken away if you admit ET to your T. This was a huge issue with me. The first time I ever admitted my feelings for him, I expressed that he was probably terrified of me, and would be gradually moving his chair back until he was sitting against the wall. T's respond was to ask for my hand. I took it and he said, "Do I seem afraid now?" Unfortunately, I still worry that he is scared. I expressed this as recently as Saturday. He assure me he is not afraid of me, but I continue to think that I am going to push him away.