Yes, that man is a cad. Now that being said, my Mother was the other woman and I am an offspring of that affair along with my 3 brothers and 1 sister. Not all affairs are like this and some can and do last for many many years. My Mother's affair with my Father lasted 30 years until he died. Why didn't he leave his wife? Who knows except to say that he had 7 children with his wife. He said he stayed because it was easier and that he felt sorry for his wife. Us kids never knew until after he died that my Mother was the other woman. My Mother is retired and hasn't had another man since his death.

Now maybe some of you can understand why I say that not all affairs are wrong. Yes, the vast majority end sadly and cause a lot of problems, but I am here 52 years later and still don't think it was wrong for my parents to do what they did.

So don't feel dirty or like a tramp, my Mother is neither. She raised 5 of us, all work, all have good morals and all are happy to be alive.