I thought we were speaking about love here, Danialla. Love is gentle, love is kind. It doesn't seek its own reward. When someone loves another or others in general, they behave this way toward them. There is no thought or intetnion to hurt. This isn't love.

In a relationship, you need to work at keeping a loving, caring, gentle relationship. If you don't do anything, the relationship starves and dies.

Love is not about controlling, pushing or hurting another. But even in a loving, giving and patient relationship there are personal freedoms that no one has the right to refuse the other. They are called boundaries.

As a mother and grandmother, I love my kids and their kids. But because they want to run out in the street doesn't mean that I allowed my kids and today don't allow my grandkids to do it. If I see a child, ANY child, that is about to be hurt, I may hurt that child's arm in the effort of reaching out and pulling it out of harms way. The hurt, however, was not intentional but necessary as compared to the greater hurt of being hurt or worse yet, being killed by an oncoming car.

I hope you can understand the concept.