Some facts:
I have three older siblings, each of them with their own family. My sister has three kids, 18, 13 and 5. My oldest brother has three kids, two of 13 and one of 10. My other brother has a son of two years old.

Since the first one was born and up till today, I have given them birthday presents and christmas presents every year. I havent always managed to send presents to their actual day (being a student over many years is not really lucreative), but I have always called, sent a card or in some way contacted them in one way or another to say happy birthday. And if I have forgotten it once or twice I have had an angry phone or message from the family about not saying happy birthday.

Thing is, yesterday my only child turned 2. My daughter got a happy birthday message from her uncle and cousin of two years old in her guestbook, but otherwise she hasnt heard a thing from anyone in my family. Her grandmother on the fathers side gave her a present on sunday, and yestrday she got a card and a phonecall. My mother gave her the birthday present around x-mas, but she didn't even send an sms saying happy birthday yesterday.

Its not that it's so important that they send presents, but I think they could send her at least a postcard. For all the babysitting I have done with all their kids the last 18 years, they could send her a simple postcard saying "happy birthday". For me this is lack of repect, towards all the attention and help I have given them ,and towards my daughter .

Am I so totally unfair then?

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