Kiya and moon both riase really good points.
When i read your post, i just started thinking about when I started therapy and even though you know it's not a quick fix, you still have some expectations there. You form your own ideas about how it should go, and what the outcomes could be. I don't know if that is valid or relevant, just a thought.
As for the pat on the back stuff, I used to hate that, I felt like i was being patronised, getting praise just because i managed to get out of bed, like....grr. She stooped being so full on with it after that.

Have you told your therapist you feel this way? If you have, how did it go? If not, do you think it may help?