when i was a young bride, i always went and got my sister's children and let them stay two weeks with us....we would do all of the fun things that living in a city provided. when my children got old enough to go visit with my sister's familys, they weren't invited. it really hurt them because they had heard all of the stories for years about their cousins coming to stay with us....i don't have an answer as i never confronted anyone about it. and as for trips with my relatives, evidently the highway is one way...i always go there and they never come here. it's too far, it's too cold, someone will have to feed the cattle, blah, blah, blah.....i sympathize with you and your daughter. love, pat