Hi Downout -- I agree with everything 50guy has said.My first thought when I read your husband's comments about your weight was, Huh, so who's he -- Sean Connery?

Sometimes there are places to get counseling without paying very much. I've been seen for as little as 10 dollars at a United Way family counseling center -- and he was very compassionate, wise, and helpful.

I hope you soon find little ways to make changes and feel better.

And I do not think it is whining, either.