dear Wants2fly, Wow, I think you know exactly what is happening. I think you know you have outgrown the relationship. And how sad that will be for him when he either comes to the realization or you have to painfully spell it out for him. It is so sad when you still love someone, but know they are not who you want to be with or be there for them! Unfortunately, it will hurt your hart too when it comes down, because you can not just STOP loving someone, unless you never loved them anyway. I must say like the other poster said, I have no easy answer for you. If you feel you want to invest the time in counseling, of course do it. If you dont, do not feel guilty. Whatever choice you make, please please do it because it is what YOU YOU YOUwant. Yest think about you for once okay! Easy for me to say but whatever happens do not feel bad or guilty for your feelings. I am speaking from experience.on that. I wish you much happiness. Do not lose yourself to be with anyone!