Thank you Sky. Our problem is that my husband is ill with prostate cancer and copd (23% lung function). So this needs to be handled in a way that won't get him too upset. I just don't see that happening. Her older brother who is currently living away has heard all of this and the fact that this past weekend we were not the only ones she took her rath out on. He is so embarrassed by it all. But he can't come home to help right now. The other two siblings are still pretty much caught in the middle. It's a mess all the way around. And I'm afraid she might hurt herself or tick the wrong person out who has no barriers and she gets beat up. It's really that bad.