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I guess that was the distinction I was (and am for myself) trying to get at. So... The thought that there can be a wonderful bond with your therapist in that first sense even if the sexualized feelings come to pass... And if it didn't matter so much if the second kind of feeling came to pass as that wouldn't (at all) threaten the nature of the first kind of feeling... And if the second kind of feeling came to pass that it might even deepen that first kind...

Perhaps...

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When you say "the first kind," are you referring to erotic transference of the parent/child-type that is not sexualized in the I-want-to-%#@&#!-you-way? I just want to make sure that I am clear.

There are so many overlaps of the two, I think. Wanting to be interesting, attractive, wanting to be with the person all of the time, the jealousy of time spent with anyone else other than you.

I'm trying to figure out what it really means to "work through" it. To me, the logical progression would be that the closer I become with him, the more I'd want to %#@&#! him.

Hmm, I have a lot of reading to do tonight.