Dear Psyco1, we all have different belief systems, some people believe that there is an order to life, a structure or a plan that works best, and they go with it...others don't. Some people cast off the customs of their society because they see them as somehow restricting or that they don't represent who they feel they are and rebel against them. When we do that we usually open up a Pandora's box of trouble we never anticipated. First, it's taken a toll on your relationship by driving a wedge between you and him. Your son may someday come to find that there's a reason why he's supposed to be the head of his household, all teams have a leader otherwise you end up with chaos...someone has to steer! make decisions etc...having said all that I also believe that if a man is the head of his household, his wife is definitely the neck! and a full partner to the man (the head). Your son is a fully grown man,and beyond your influence (apparently) just keep loving him AND his wife and family despite whatever feelings you might have about what he's done. focus on the love instead of the dis-respect