Hi Stephanie,

The thing that I noticed in your post was that your ex was doing the nice/nasty stuff to you. This kind of manipulation can escalate in some people, and I believe it is the basis of controlling relationships that can become physically abusive.

I remember this issue coming up in a previous thread. Whilst I believe that people can change themselves if they really want to, the nice/nasty stuff is a deep rooted dynamic.

I think that you did the right thing.

Good thoughts to you, Myzen.