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I dislike it intensely when I am talking to T and he says, "I'm just not saying what you want to hear." At that point, I'm extremely frustrated and even moreso after hearing that phrase.

I have noticed, though, that the phrase is popular amongst therapists. (I'm leading an 'awareness' campaign to stop this at all costs, BTW) LOL --Traveler, what are your thoughts on this?


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I think that would get my goat as well. A rule I have heard for confronting people is "Say what you see when you see it, and say it with kindness and respect" (Fran Smith, family therapist). It seems to me that your T may be on to something but it doesn't sound kind or respectful when he/she says it that way. Have you told your T this?