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I have spent many, many hours reviewing in fine details of my interactions with my T. I repeatedly look for signs that she is lying, not being genuine, is just pretending not to judge me, is uncomfortable, is not trustworthy and honest, doesn't give a crap, just want to get rid of me, and is just listening to be because it's her job. And every time I find no supporting evidence. When my mind goes into some paranoid witch hunt, it consistently returns empty handed. This alone has had more of a profound impact on me than any insight she gives.

fellowtraveler the best thing you can give your clients is your genuine presence. Anything less will be surely noticed.

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Yikes! I am glad I am not your T! (jk!) That is some scrutiny. I hope that I would hold up under it as well as she does.

I absolutely agree (about the genuine part). In my experiences in therapy, I really can only remember a few things that my therapists said to me years ago, but I do remember that each of my Ts made me feel genuinely cared about and understood (at least most of the time)... and that made all the difference.

My current T is more directive which is what I need right now and has been willing to confront me which has been perhaps most helpful of all.