I have a dilemma. I am doing group therapy and DBT. DBT is on Tuesday and Thursday for 2 hours each. We have a break about an hour after the group starts. This group is lead by a therapist.

On Tuesday during the break one of the group members said to me that "I should get off my A@# and do something with my life." I responded to her that I had already reached my goals. Unbenost to her, I have an advance degree. I turned away and started talking to another member. Before I knew it, the woman had picked up the running fan and shoved it in my face. The fan was about 6 inches from my face when she withdrew it and shoved it back in my face.

I was shocked and didn't say anything to the group leader. I ended up talking about the incident in my group therapy on Wednesday morning. That group leader wanted to know who it was...so I told her (not in front of anyone else).

So today, the woman said to me "can I talk to you?" I said no. So during DBT she looks at me and says "I apologize for hurting your feelings." I looked at her and said "you didn't only hurt my feelings but you aggressively shoved a fan in my face." She asked for my acceptance of her apology and I wouldn't do it.

I don't know what to do. I'm so angry that my boundaries were violated. I honestly do not want to accept her apology. Am I wrong?