well, what can i say, i didnt really need to use any of the above methods, what i really find that has worked is that i do spend time with him, show him a little bit of me to help him hunderstand that I am an intelligent person, someone he can talk to on the same level. ive chosen more of a guidance role then a stand-off position.
so far, its working, home life is easier. not to mention i think his older brother may have hinted toward how much work i do around the house, mostly when he isnt there (personally, i prefer to work alone , cleaning or otherwise, it holds a greater satisfaction for me i suppose.) and therefore, how much work wouldnt be done without me there.
perhaps anger issues and laziness go hand in hand? heh.

anyways, thanks for your suggestions.

il keep posting if i can, im 3rd year into a social psychology course and i think this website is a place i can not only learn, but help if i can.

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