Hi TJ, I don't think you're an idiot! I just haven't commented because you already saw the link I posted to the Sam Valkin FAQ's... he says more than I ever could!

True, there are varying degrees of NPD, and it IS a harsh dx to be given.

But the N I was with was full-tilt, 100% submurged in his PD and unwilling/able to address it... so my opinions are VERY harsh. I don't think they are appropriate for your thread (yet).

I hope the best for you, because you deserve it!
VoN