well everyone i finally broke down and talked to him about it and he got real defensive, tryed to deny it until i showed him all the weird things hes been looking up on the computer. all he could say was so what and tryed to tell me he told me about all this when we got together----no he didnt.he did tell me 9 months ago that him and his ex wife were into being swingers and role playing, well he knows by now im not like that and i wont be. so im back to square one again.