Kim,
So, is projective identification when you want your T to be empathic and caring, but when you don't experience that, you get angry at your T? (Not you specifically, but I'm just trying to figure this out)

Also, can projective identification include you as the patient being angry and behaving in a way that angers one's T? That way the T is forced to feel your internal world and will hopefully hand it back to you in a better form?

This is really interesting, but I'm not sure that I have a complete grasp on its meaning. Thanks!