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Did it, in the end, in your situation, really come down to what YOU needed? Like you said? Just knowing your own limits and stating clearly that they'd been reached? That sounds easy. Why isn't it.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">It's not easy. I'm not good at all at stating my needs. I've been working on that in therapy. For my marriage, I put up with a lot. I was miserable for a long time. When I found out beyond a shadow of a doubt that my H was sleeping around, I told him "this is the end of the road for me." I guess that was my line in the sand. But it still took us 2 more years to separate. It is good to know your line in the sand.

Sting, if you can't do marriage counseling with your H right now, could you start marriage counseling on your own? You don't have to go with a partner.