Maybe your T is speaking of kindness, gentleness and yes, even forgivness towards yourself. Acceptance that you're not perfect and that, if you don't meet your own expectations of yourself, to know that in the future you will do better. Don't punish yourself by beating yourself up with your "self talk". How do you speak to yourself? Do you berate yourself or do you say, "next time I'll do better."

For me, Grace from God is "unmeritted favor". It was a really hard concept for me to wrap my brain around. Now I know that He loves me regardless of my unthoughtful behavior or falling short of the mark, whatever that mark may be.

Hope that helps.