Can you talk to someone about the man you are afraid of?

I feel you might benefit from getting this out.

Also, I didn't open my mouth when people were offensive to me for years.... because I didn't want to sound like them or have anyone feel what I was capable of lashing out or either feel the way they made me feel.

Those days are gone. If I must defend myself, I consider it a responsibility to myself, my reputation, and ultimately my self-esteem.

I found my voice in this department. Sometimes I use humor, but mostly I tell people right at the beginning that what is going on doesn't feel right to me, by my own values ... do what they want, I don't want to control others .... but don't do something to me I would not do to you or anyone.

Keep telling yourself the golden rule, what do to others what we wish done to us - till you believe it. After awhile, when someone crosses a line with you, you can gently or firmly tell them to step back ... whatever it is ... you'll be fine.

I am concerned about this man though. Can you be ore specific?

love,
night