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I'm wondering now how to decide which one to stay with.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I would say an important consideration is their experience at helping people in a similar place as you. A couples therapist/family therapist who also sees people solo might be good. Make sure it is not a marriage counselor who only sees people if they want to put the marriage back together again. There are therapists like that who will work with you and then if you decide you do not want to save the marriage, they drop you. So try to get a couples/family therapist rather than someone who only works with couples on keeping the marriage intact. A couples/family therapist can do that too but has broader scope.

I would be wary of that counselor who over the phone told you it wouldn't take many sessions to help you and then send you on your way. How does she know based on one phone call? Your issues don't sound easy to me at all. This therapist's easy-fix attitude would raise a big red flag to me.

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Will I know from one meeting which one is better for me?

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Probably. You will probably "click" better with one than the other, or one will seem better qualified for your particular issue than the other. Or neither may be what you are looking for. And so you can try someone else.

Is that 70 pounds per hour? (Not sure what that symbol means.) I think that works out to about $150 American dollars, which is in the range of therapists in the U.S. My T charges $125-$175/hr depending on the service. It sure isn't cheap, but it can be so helpful. For myself, I try not to stop and ask myself how much this has cost. But if I do, I think, would I rather be stuck forever in an unhappy situation, or pay a few thousand dollars for help getting out of it and moving forward in my life? My answer is always no regrets, the money's worth it.