What do you do when your "better" are days that turn out non-disastrous? That the worst just keep on coming? Sometimes I find it hard to keep my head up. Dealing with a disabled husband (mentally, physically disabled, medicated impaired husband). I feel I am too young to not do the things that couples do (husband and wife, mother and father). I feel I have too much life in me to not use it, I don't want to throw in the towel but I feel that I have no choice. I feel as though "I" have died. Am I being selfish? I feel like I am. Here my husband suffered a great loss physically and I'm thinking of myself. I feel I owe myself to him all he has done for our country and I also feel responsible for his accident. Has anyone been in this situation and can you get through it without losing yourself? His accident was eight years ago and it (our relationship do to the accident) is worse now than it was then.